The border of obligations
Anyone who lives in the west, is familiar with the common household. Each member of the family contributes in his/her way to the household, and we are seeing more and more daughters taking on the role of the main breadwinner in the family. There is nothing wrong with that, until this is considered an obligation...
It is true that the time and place play an important role, but is this correct? Why do people in the west now think this way? Because it suits them better or have we now started to use the rules of non-Muslims? As far as my knowledge goes, a daughter and wife are the only ones who have a right on their earnings and yet parents and husbands claim it.
I've seen this happen in many families, yet the question arises why this is considered as the norm now. Parents used to think about the future of their daughters, and prepare, organise and save up for them. The daughters are now left to build a future by themselves. And all the while expected to contribute to the household, this process is rather slow.I once asked an aunt why she demanded this from her daughter. Her answer: “But she lives here so she’s obliged. Look at all those non-Muslims. As their children are mature, they also have to pay rent if they still live at home”. I just couldn’t leave it to ask her then: “But your daughter can’t move if she’s not married and if daughters now started to earn the money to maintain the family, no one will wish for a son right? Unfortunately, she did not have an answer.
For the boys it’s a different story. Whether they work or not. There are no obligations for them. So the daughters are the breadwinners but the sons are still mum and dad’s favourites? Where is the logic?
Parents who do that to their daughters are wrong and I think the daughters themselves (and other familymembers) should take a stand for them
Altough I am not familiar with the situation that is described in the article (never seen it honesli)but still the people surrounding those girls should take a stand for them
Totally against Islam !
Totally against the rulings of Islam nd against the teachings of the Holy Prophet (pbuh) !
@MOD: merge both posts
However, having an Islamic personality includes having generous and empathetic attributes right? My parents struggled to make ends meet throughout our life, they gave me the freedom and education to get where I am today. So for me, helping with the bills etc is the least I could do, spending money in this way is a sadaqah. What kind of family member WOULDN'T contribute?
It's a different case if the woman's earnings are expected to contribute towards living costs. It's the duty of a husband to do this, and if he can't and the couple are willing for the woman to chip in, then that husband better get to know the kitchen and the hoover well!!
Don't make your opinion sound like a fact, cause that's totally untrue.
And in the west and not only in the west most women want to be independent, that's why they work and who says that they give their money to others?
And i don't know what islam says about a mother asking her daughter for some money every month.
I know a husband can't obligate that toward his wife, what about her mother or father?
@Billy, I mean that if a family/couple finanically rely upon the wife's income to support them, this is NOT her Islamic obligation. So contributing would be a good deed for her. This means that the wife is doing part of the husband's traditional role (financial support) therefore it's only fair the husband does part of the wife's traditional role (the running of the house). Which is what you find in 'modern' households today as it's a healthy balance. Logical.
Does that make sense? In no way does this undermine the role of the wife or say she doesn't need to work, rather Islam has given women the right to not HAVE to work, as her husband needs to provide for her and their children.